Gender discrimination

[sbehuria]

A girl child is born. Her biirth is celeberated. Her parents and brothers and siblings dote on her. She ties rakhi on her brother - he promises to protect her. The parents are educated and the father is a senior government servant. Her brothers are government servants. They have promised to eradicate social evils and usher in an equal and egalitarian society - they get paid to do it.

The sons go to special public schools.
The daughter stays at home and is educated in local school.

The parents create property in the name of the sons.
They wish to get the daughters married 'off'.

Sons bring dowry.
They rightly celeberate the banning of dowry - they don't need to give the daughter anything.

They father wills his property to his sons only and residence rights to wife.
He is thankful that the daughter has been married off.
The brothers say what can we do "Our father left us everything". We have a lot of love for you. You deserve that. But, you are a girl child - you cannot have any property. We have only daughters. They can inherit our father's property through us. Bad luck, sister.

This is happening daily in the homes of government servants and public offical. Those in charge of delivering social justice are throttling social justice in their own homes. How will any government and sytem deliver social justice when the deliverer themselves violate human rights in their own homes? What does the girl child do? While the society and law has been concentrating on the violation of her rights away from home, the violation has now turned inwards. What now?

[sahastrabhuj]

A society that kills its daughters and mal treats its women is doomed to fail and fracas sooner than later.

Indian people are now so corrupted that they will not mind killing their recently born daughters.

Besides that the women are being sold like commodities and our media channels are showing Indian women's plight as entertainment.

Our future is very dark.

[anjali]

Our future is certainly very very dark..

जब एक लेडी स्कुल टीचर ही गर्ल स्टुडेंस को ब्लैक्मेल कर उनकी टैफीकिंग कर सकती है, तो लडकियाँ कितनी शोशित और असुरक्षित है, हिंदुस्तान में, इसका अंदाज़ आप लगा सकते है.

[agni2007]

yes, i agree with you.

[gumnaam]

A week after a so-called sting operation by a private TV channel led to public humiliation and disgrace for a maths teacher of a government school, the entire operation has turned out to be a hoax and a blatant attempt to frame the teacher. The crime branch of Delhi Police on Thursday arrested the very girl who had been depicted as a schoolgirl being offered by the teacher to a client — the reporter — for money. The unedited tapes of the entire episode revealed to the cops how the teacher, Uma Khurana, was actually a victim.

The girl, who was earlier reported to be neither a schoolgirl, nor a prostitute, was arrested under the charge of giving false evidence after the investigators watched the unedited tapes and recorded the statement of the journalist.

The police refused to divulge the identity of the girl but the arrest clearly suggests that the police have found no evidence against Khurana, something that has become increasingly clear over the past few days. The girl has beenarrested under Section 192 (fabricating evidence), 193 (punishment for false evidence), 211 (false charges with intention to injure), 419 (impersonation) and 420 (cheating) of IPC.

The cops said they were on the verge of registering a case against the reporter who conducted the entire operation for giving false evidence and accusing Khurana of being a pimp supplying girls from the school where she was earlier teaching.

The airing of the episode featuring Sarvodaya Kanya Vidyalaya, Vivek Vihar, had led to mob violence for about four hours near its branch at Turkman Gate last Thursday.

[purushottam]

Yes you are right. This is not the first incident. Previously because of fake sting operation a Gujarat magistrate was suspended and ultimately it was found that it was a fake sting operation.Yesterday India TV was telecasting a programme for hours together showing dance girls dancing in a function organised on the occasion of Janmaastami by Railway Protection Force. The channel was critcising but at the same time it was depicting the same programme. Shame to such channels. Go to 'views on HT and read the article written by Poonam Saxena on TV programmes.

[purushottam]

Dear sbehura, I will post my viwes latter as presently I am not all right.

[purushottam]

My daughter Geeta had posted this poem which is reproduced and is published for readers consideration. The poem will speak for itself and there is no need to add any note. Have it:-------

Broken dream

Oh dear my angle is here! She has born n I have dream for her.
Her smile is so beautiful...

I have a dream for her...
She'll look like a doll in pink ribbon n frock
I'll make her learn to swim n dance
I'll make her learn to read n write

Oh! I have a dream for hear..
She 'll grow up n build her career
She 'll earn,cook n look good
She is wonderful n all -rounder every body will say

Oh! I have dream for her..
I'll marry her off to dream merchant
They 'll have happy life..
Oh! I am happy what a great dream I have for her...

...........but oh!What happened to my wounderful daughter..

She is stressed...she is guilty...Oh no!She has delayed her family too...
Oh! What happened to my dream...it's broken
Where I went wrong...she was to be happy girl...oh!
What happened to my daughter?

Yes, now I know why my daughter ....
..Oh wait even my daughter-in-law she is tressed too!

Now I know my mistake ....where I went wrong...now I know.

I planed for my angle but not for my son!
I only asked him to study well n earn more.
Oh! I made a mistake I never had any dream for him!

With long hair n jazzoh! I let him look so bad.
On motor bikes he went for long rides..I never asked why n where.
I never let him know what a home is.
I never asked him to make a cup of tea.
It's my mistake I always served him food n drink.

Oh! I never asked him to wash a dish or two.
Oh! I Never asked him to wash his clothes too.
Never asked him to cook an omelet or rice so.

Oh! I never told him he 'll grow up n have a wife.
Oh!I never told him both of them will earn
and will have less time to learn

Oh! What a big mistake I made.
I never dreamed for my son
Oh! I never told him how to live a life.
Oh!No now I know I was GENDERED BIAS...!
Now I have to pay for my mistakes for not bringing them alike.

I thought my daughter was stressed
But now I know my son is stressed too.

Now what I do with this broken dream?
Where do I go....
U tell me where do I go....where do I go?

[purushottam]

Dowry is another burning problem which burns the brides-physically, mentally socially and financially.

Let us look to the back ground of it.India is dependent mainly on agriculture and about 75 % population had earned bread out of this agricultural activities. Even to day not less than 60 % of the population is dependent on it. In old time family planning was not popular and secondly there was no need for it as men power was being utilised for agricultural work. People had huge land to cultivate and that was equally true with individual families also.

At the time of marriage the daughter was certainly not given portion in land as it is a basic principle that division of land has no end and it reduces the area and adversely affect the growth in the land. The join family use to give her a portion in the shape of money and ornaments for her future life and her maintainance in life. On occasions when she visited parental house she used to be give some thing like this from time to time presumably a yearly share in the agricultural produce. Till recently it had been a practice and in few areas it is yet prevailing.

By lapse of time concept changed and the dependency on agriculture also reduced but the concept of dowry remained as it is. Those who had no agriculture income started giving cash or kind at the time of marriage. Certainly it was her share in the father's or ancestral property. But the lust of human being is end less and the practice has taken so wild shape that the bride-grroms and their parents think that dowry is their right and it should not only be paid but should be paid in perpetuity. How a father or daughter's family can bear such huge recurring expenditure ?

Unfortunately the children who least bother for their parents do respect their desires at the time of marriage and are always amicable to their desire for dowry. Even if a boy is not ready the parents will insist for it . And even if the boy refuses to such demand they will sever relations with the son and make him separate from house.

Times have further changed with educational development, girls are also being educated and are joining services or jobs or have their own jobs also. They have become earning members in the family. Even then if boys demond dowry it is shameful on their part as they have not mentally grown up and in reality they are mentally impotent also. Will boys agree? Say in so many words!!!!!Decide that they will in no case demond dowry.

The law in this respect may not serve much purpose as there is no material change in mental frame of mind of the society. It may take sufficient time of more than 30-50 years to change the society. Till then one has to depend on the present laws and should one has to depend on customs too????????
Will the Hindu society and other class of the societies come forward to chang the mentality of public or will keep them telling stories from Ramayan , Mahabharat and other religious books and make them deaf ,dumb and blind with the realities of life?

[purushottam]

I was just talking to my wife and was discussing about love marriages and arranged marriages.

So far as love marriages are concerned they are mostly based on the opposite sex attraction and environment in which man and woman work. Because of the blandishment dalliance of a woman man is attracted if both are in the same field . But this which are not in possession ,man/woman wants them. That is sense of possession over power all other senses and in that the both want to marry but once they marry the male loses attraction because the female is his wife and he does not want that she should serve in the same field and he starts ignoring her.

Therefore what is necessary is persons working in the same field should not love each other from the point of view of marriage but once they feel that they should get married before they start chatting and dating.Otherwiswe be sure that the marriage may not be a successful one. In love marriage the boy and girls are sexually so blindly attracted that they think that their parents ate their foes and do not want to see them happy. Against the wishes of the parents they get married and within no time after initial sex satisfaction the lovers also starts vanning.

Parents of the boy whether in love marriage or otherwise are never satisfied with dowry and in particular mother -in -law. She afraids that in love marriage she may get less dowry. In any case she has avarice for dowry and it is not that she is satisfied if once dowry is given but she has non stop lust for it. Are the boy and his parents are so impotent that they do not have manliness and self respect for them self? Apart from this the treatment by mother,sisters and brothers of the boy is worst and treat the daughter-in-law less important than the made servant.

This attitude is over all same all over the world in all classes of society.

The psychologists should study the subject with particular study of female [mother -in- law] attitude.